Commitment Phobia

Article by Paul Douglass, therapist, commitment phobia specialist, and author of LifeShaping

 

Commitment Phobia is one of the most common phobias that affect people in their lives. Commitment Phobia can affect almost any part of the person's life, but especially affects how a person feels about becomming involved, or staying involved, in a long term relationship.

Commitment Phobia can also impact on someone's career, and they may find it hard to progress in their chosen career, because they find it difficult to offer their employer the kind of long term commitment that the employer probably wants from them.

When someone with Commitment Phobia is asked what it feels like, they will often report that it is like a fear of being stuck, or trapped in a situation, or that they fear feeling 'out of control' in their career or relationship.

The Symptoms of Commitment Phobia

The symptoms of Commitment Phobia, which can be seen here, can often go hand in hand with some of the symptoms of Social Anxiety. Many people with Commitment Phobia will relate in some way, to some of the symptoms of Social Anxiety.

Some of the most common symptoms of Commitment Phobia, include...

• Criticism of a Partner
• Hurting Their Partner
• Scared of Getting Noticed
• Unrealistic Ideals
• The Unavailable Partner – The Affair
• The Unavailable Partner – The Long Distance Relationship
• The Commitment Phobic Partner
• Commitment Phobia and the Long Term Relationship
• The ‘Yo-Yo-ing’ effect in commitment phobia
• The Serial Commitment Phobic
• The Fear of Commitment to Anything

What Causes Commitment Phobia

Commitment Phobia, in common with many other phobias, is a mechanism put in place by the brain to protect us from something that (for some reason), it has mis-judged the threat of.

In the example of Commitment Phobia, the person may have had an experience in their past where they felt out-of-control, or trapped, and their mind is over-protecting them from similar situations, in case something similar ever happens again.

Treating a phobia can by surprisingly simple, because all that really needs to happen, is for that 'unresolved emotion', or 'conflict', to be resolved. Once the 'unresolved emotion' is resolved, there's no longer a need for the mind to protect us (or over-protect us) from it, and the phobia can disappear.

More information on the causes of Commitment Phobia can be seen here

How to feel more in control, stop the endless cycle of relationship break-ups, and get the relationship that you want

Are you looking to overcome commitment phobia… to feel more in control, stop the endless cycles of relationship break-ups, get the relationship that you want, and feel happier and more settled in your love life?

If that's you, the first thing for you to know is that you CAN do it!... all you need, is for someone to show you how...

When you understand commitment phobia, you'll see just how simple it is to overcome it! - You can bring and end to those cycles of relationships and break-ups, and have a loving, caring and comfortable relationship.

How to overcome commitment phobia and get the relationship that you want

 

Article by Paul Douglass, therapist, commitment phobia specialist, and author of LifeShaping

 

Paul has provided me with the right help and the right tools. I feel empowered to deeply improve my approach to life and he has already got me well started.

Gael B
Marseille, France

Words from Gael, who successfully overcame his commitment phobia

 

Readers Comments

"I appreciate this article.  I believe that I have encountered a commitment phobic.  Last week he loved me, this week he cares nothing for me and it's over.  Yet, I don't know why.  He says it's hm and not me.  He has no friends.  He wears shades all the time. He was going to school to be a pilot after retiring but decided to just do security because it's easier.  He would never compliment me.  And he has no problem hurting my feelings.  But, I love him and want him back.  So, what do I do except leave him like he now wants me to do."
Renae in Charleston, SC - 8th July 2009

"You're welcome Renae... make sure you subscribe to our newsletter, because commitment phobia / commitment issues are one of the most common issues that people ask about, we're going to cover it a lot in the newsletter over the coming months, so you might be able to understand it even more! "
Paul Douglass - Anxiety Matters - 3rd September 2009

Commitment Phobia Questions

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