Symptoms of Commitment Phobia
Source: Paul Douglass MIAH Acc. D.Hyp. Adv. - Anxiety therapist specialising in Pure Hypnoanalysis in London, England - Visit Paul's Website
The following is taken from Paul's article "The Symptoms of Commitment Phobia"
Unrealistic Ideals
The ‘distancing themselves from others’ technique that we just mentioned however, sometimes isn’t enough on its own. It occasionally needs some help from other ‘reasons’ for the person with commitment phobia to avoid a particular situation.
For example, sometimes the person with commitment phobia will inadvertently find themselves getting closer and closer to someone they’ve met, without even really noticing it themselves.
Sometimes it’s only when the other person seems to want to progress the relationship to the next level that the person with commitment phobia feels the need to ‘escape’ from the situation.
This is where the commitment phobic person may need to employ other techniques of escape. One such method is the ‘unrealistic ideal’.
They may recognize all sorts of positive aspects in their potential partner, but will still find some standard that the person doesn’t match up to…
“yes I know she’s a lovely person, and that she’d be a great wife, and that she loves me, and that she does all that charity work, and….(etc, etc)… but she’s a Sagittarius isn’t she… I couldn’t possibly marry a Sagittarius!”
“I need a wife who’s earning a lot more than she does”
“If only she was half-an-inch taller I’d marry her in an instant”
When friends and relatives tell the person with commitment phobia that they’re being “too picky” and that ‘Mr Right’ or ‘Miss Right’ doesn’t exist, the commitment phobic will insist that they do, and they’ll find them one day.
Source: Paul Douglass MIAH Acc. D.Hyp. Adv. - Anxiety therapist specialising in Pure Hypnoanalysis in London, England - Visit Paul's Website
Date Added: 5th of July 2007
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